Category: Dating / Relationships

• 3 Reasons Why I’ll Quit Using Dating Websites.

  Posted at 12:21 am by colbytallen, on September 13, 2016

  

  After encouragement from friends and some research, I decided to give it a run and use a few websites to meet new women for dates. A few people I know have met their significant other VIA networking websites, so I trust it works and is not just for creepers.

  

   

  Before diving into it, this article is very short and simplified. Plenty of conversation can be had pro and con for dating sites, this is simply a brief sharing of my experiences.

  There are some social stigmas that are attached, typically people are seen as only joining because they are unable to procure dates within their area, or have social issues relating to people and use distance/digital as a personal filter. Regardless of the stigmas, there are several positives and I figured it was worth a shot. Also having been on several dates within the last few months, I sought to use this as a way to meet people that are not in my normal circle of friends.

  After having active memberships on several of the notable sites, here are a few negative points about my experience using these services, and why I will not renew any memberships once they expire:

   

  1. It’s a business that’s all about the money.
     1. They all advertise join for free, but once you join you can’t communicate unless you cough up the cash. As a person in business I understand they exist to make money, but it gets to the point of being obnoxious.
     2. Once you sign up you immediately get bombarded with the BECOME A SUBSCRIBER TODAY screens and emails to unlock all the features. Normally with a new member discount offer, the longer membership you buy the less it cost per month. Never fails that they are auto-renew subscriptions, which means if you forget they will automatically charge you for extending the membership instead of asking if you want to continue.
     3. You are constantly sent offers to sign up at 50% of normal rate, then the next day the email states 60% off. It never ends until you whip out the plastic.
  2. Lack of transparency leads to continual frustration . . . again all about the money.
     1. So once you sign up for your profile, buy your 6 month membership, it’s time to start mingling. Most profiles only have one photo and N/A for nearly every question (which usually indicates someone registered but doesn’t take it serious, they just wanted to check out other people). You get your one or several “matches” per day where you get to review their profile. Scrolling through the endless pictures of dogs you finally get to photos of them . . . with friends . . . and you start to ask “who is it?”
     2. Once you run across someone that you scroll through their pics you can identify, more than once, you decide to send them a wink or smile or take their bagel, or whatever quirky flirtation the site utilizes. Then you wait . . . but what are you waiting for? You don’t know. Because you can’t tell if they think you are not worth it and ignoring you, or if they are not a paying member and will now be bombarded with SUBSCRIBE NOW TO GET YOUR MESSAGES emails from the icebreaker questions you sent them.
        1. Side note – as of today 9/12/16 I currently have 10 sent messages pending a response on eharmony, several nearly a month long. Ignoring or can’t respond because they aren’t full members? I’ll never know. I’m no James Franco . . . but also not living with my parents and “D&D Dungeon Master” shown as my career . . .
     3. This point in particular is what tipped me over. After getting into an email battle with a highly notable site (cough cough . . . catholicmatchless). After realizing this could happen, emailed customer service to confirm or see if this was the case. They said yes it’s possible, so I sought to cancel my membership because I didn’t want to pay for a service that is not reciprocated .I.E. sending messages to a wall that can only come down if someone pays for it. They don’t offer a refund, so I even pulled out the terms of service that a refund can be requested and reviewed by customer service . . . it was declined and they offered a voucher to return for a few months at no additional cost . . . you mean give me what I already paid for? Thanks no thanks.
  3. Commercialization of people is never a good thing.
     1. Using it at a networking site does not make it a bad means to a good end, but a few points to consider may help put some perspective on how to properly navigate.
     2. A tip that I’ve received several times is “not getting responses? Dating is a numbers game, the more you put out there the better chance of getting a response.”
        1. Um, NO. People should not be treated like numbers, and the reason I even joined is to connect with people who are serious about connecting. It isn’t a sales statistic or a target you’re trying to hit, they are people you are interested in learning about, and deserve to be respected as such. Some women who did respond to me were surprised when I would mention that I had only exchanged messages with them or only a few others, and had a somewhat serious approach to meeting people for dates and not just hookups.
     3. I started to find myself being guilty of immediate judgments and not being satisfied with what was being shown to me. You are only given so many matches per day, so if none of them caught your attention . . . your attention
        desires to move on to more. Scrolling through the discover, or others in your area pages seemed to feed a desire for scrolling VS choosing . . . because there is always the “what if” factor that there is someone (or something) better.
        1. For men in particular this is very dangerous because this is the method of the hookup culture and pornography. Which is why tinder is so popular . . . endless swipes or clicks until you find what you like.

   

  Please don’t get me wrong. I’m not against spending money to meet people. The only way to meet people is to invest yourself (in person and resources), this is simply another model to do so.

   

  I now see why they advertise so much . . . their customer turnover/retention has got to be a huge number, and it isn’t from people being matched up. Their rates are so high because their customer acquisition price is probably a huge chunk of their costs.

   

  Why can’t people just scroll through facebook in the suggested friends page and ask people out that way? Oh wait, that’s too creepy . . .

  This isn’t meant to deter you from using online dating (well maybe), but to hopefully give some insight about a few things no one pointed out to me before jumping onto the sites.

  For nearly 1.5 years of utilizing several different sites to their potential with nothing to show for it, I think I’ll switch back to using that money to buy random ladies drinks at the bar or dinner.

  If you have similar or different experiences, I’d love to hear them. Comments or emails are welcome, please feel free to share.

   

  Peace.

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• Dear women, please tell us no when we need it.

  Posted at 2:35 am by colbytallen, on June 7, 2016

  

  Dear Beautiful Women,

  Have peace to know that you can be seen and loved. The season of waiting can be one of the most difficult spans you ever face. The uncertainty of choices, options, advances, offers, or whatever form you may experience the potential for a proposal of a shared life – is wildly intimidating.

  

  With the seemingly complete uncertainty, and the pressure of perfectionism, how can you ever be certain you are making the right decision now? You don’t. That’s risks.

   

  • You desire for a man to choose you.
  • You desire to be held.
  • You desire a man to binge on Netflix with you while putting down buttered pecan ice cream.
  • You desire to give birth to his children.
  • You desire for your man to wash the dishes while you play with the children.
  • You desire for him to lock eyes and appreciate you in a room full of people.
  • You desire for him to take out the trash.
  • You desire for him to whisper sweet every-things to you.
  • You desire for a man to Love you.

   

   

  Your desires are good, and you deserve for them to become reality.

   

  This letter is written from several men who have a request. That when that moment of uncertainty is upon you, and you can’t say yes, please say no. If a man has initiated to “define the relationship” please be ready to de-fine.

   

  Once a man is in your life, and is offering himself to you, it is daunting. This decision may not be easy:

  • You may feel pressured.
  • You may feel a lack of freedom.
  • You may not be able to commit now.
  • You may have other plans or something to achieve.
  • You may not be able to say yes.

   

  He is asking a lot. In that moment you may realize that he is asking you to give up or change everything you’ve known to be good and comfortable:

  • Stop spending as much time with your friends so you can spend time with him.
  • Sacrifice your desires for travel to build a family.
  • Leave your family.
  • Change your job.
  • Maybe move to another town.
  • Make new friends.
  • Essentially change everything about you to accommodate him.

   

  We understand how this can be significant. We’re asking you to forsake almost all you know to risk something unknown. Call us crazy if you want, this may be the easiest decision of your life. Do not let that season of waiting be perpetuated by fear of uncertainty.

   

  But with great respect, that if we do ask and you can’t say yes, at least say NO. We need you to be definite in your response.

  We have heard your shouts (and countless blog posts) for men to step up, to initiate, to lead, to give – in response to the pain inflicted by men in your life who have not done so.

   

  But with great respect, that if we do ask and you can’t say yes, at least say NO. We need you to be definite in your response.

   

  You see, hope is a strong force. Fr. Luigi Giussani speaks of hope as a reflection of memory. The great desire for something that we have experienced, and to experience it yet again.

   

  “hope as an affirmation that resolves, an affirmation of desire, in which the needs of the heart are determined. An encounter excites, solicits, reawakens the needs of the heart; one starts to desire because this has to do with a type of future; one begins to desire.” Is it Possible to Live this way? Volume 2. Hope.

  

  It’s been said if you desire to sail, do not hire a crew and give them jobs. Inspire them to long for the vastness of the ocean. A.K.A. a man who loves you is not marrying you simply to perform the tasks needed to love you, he performs the tasks required because he longs for the vastness of your mystery.

  For man continually desires you because of hope. He has experienced a small part of you that changed him, moved him, makes him desire more. The memory of you excites him and he desires to experience that excitement and awakening more.

   

  Nothing in this world moves a man as much as woman. Adam experienced his humanity through the experience of Eve. Jacob labored for 14 years to receive Rachel. Hosea loved his wife even though she was continually unfaithful. Christ left heaven and came to us in order that we may know His love.

   

  Woman was made so that man could be moved toward God. If a man is moving toward you and if you can’t say yes, at least say NO. We need you to be definite in your response.

   

  Consider Newton’s laws of motion. An object will remain in motion unless acted upon by an outside force.

   

  You see, we may attempt to say the same end but with different words. Just as you call us to understand and pursue you, we call you to use words that we know. If you challenge us to initiate, we challenge you to adequately respond.

   

  “I can’t say yes right now” does not mean no.

  “I feel pressured, and a lack of freedom.” Good. Love requires surrendering some of our freedom. If I’m not mistaken, it was St. John Chrysostom that first referred to married love as a ball and chain.

  

  “Love consists of a commitment which limits one’s freedom – it is giving of the self, and to give oneself means just that: to limit one’s freedom on behalf of another. Limitation of one’s freedom might seem to be something negative or unpleasant, but love makes it a positive, joyful and creative thing. Freedom exists for the sake of love.” Love and Responsibility, P. 135 The Commitment of Freedom.

  Though we are made for infinite love, as humans we are subject to truths that are finite . . . I.E. we require response that is de-finite. This is the reason that St. JP2 titled his work “Love and Responsibility” because as he lays out:

  “But since reciprocity is in the very nature of love, since the interpersonal character of love depends on it, we can hardly speak of “selfishness” in this context. The desire for reciprocity does not cancel out the disinterested character of love. . . Reciprocity brings with it a synthesis, as it were, of love as desire and love as goodwill.” Love and Responsibility, p. 86 The Problem of Reciprocity.

   

  

   

  Love is not easy. Yes we’re asking you to leave father and mother and bind yourself to us. To sacrifice and walk away from all. However we offer to you now to be mindful that when we ask you to say yes, this is what we are asking you to say yes to receive:

   

  • That you let me choose you.
  • You let me hold you.
  • You let me binge on Netflix with you while putting down buttered pecan ice cream.
  • You let me be present when birthing our children.
  • You let me wash the dishes while you play with the children.
  • You experience me locking eyes with you and appreciate you in a room full of people.
  • You let me take out the trash.
  • You let me whisper sweet every-things to you.
  • You let me Love you.

   

  Yes we’re asking you to sacrifice, but first and foremost, we are asking if you will let us sacrifice for you. This is our pressure.

   

  Next time a man proposes to offer his life as a gift to you, envision that encompassed in that one question is not simply a “yes” or “no” but offering a lifetime of his own body, his own time, his own love – so that you can be loved.

   

  When a man offers himself to you, what he is saying is “let me change my entire life as to make a gift of myself in effort to enrich yours.”

   

  If we are to take the text of Ephesians 5 to its end, your subjection to your husband is not one of degradation, or disrespect, but placing yourself within his mission to serve and love you.

   

  You see Christ primarily does not offer Himself for himself, He offers Himself for our sake. As we encounter Christ, how sensible is a response that “I can’t say yes” or “I feel too pressured, and a lack of freedom.”? Christ calls us to respond to His gift of self, and so dear sisters . . . if as men we are called to be Christ (Priest, prophet, and King) of the domestic Church . . . please be definitive in your response.

   

  We apologize for the men who have been selfish and not lived the image of Christ’s true gift. We apologize for the ways that we have been blind to what you need. And please understand that even the men who strive to be Christ to you, are not Him.

   

  We’re not perfect. But if you’re willing to say yes, we are more than capable of giving our entire life to be good enough to labor for your good.

   

  Not all decisions in every moment can be seen as black and white. True decision takes discernment (shameless plug for my prior post. Click here!). However we humbly ask, that when offered this precious and exclusive gift “Let what you say be simply ‘yes’ or ‘no’. Matthew 5:37

   

  Sincerely and with peace,

  The men who strive to be good.

  “I’m no good at waiting on any kind of talk at all from you to me each day.
  And I’m sorry, I’m so sorry I never can quite seem to pull my weight.
  I don’t want to rattle, and I’ve got no plans to let myself get tossed away.
  But this muscle, all this muscle could never lift a thing without you anyway.

  And you have me, you have me, you have me only
  when I keep, when I keep, when I keep listening.

  You wanna come and stay here and depending on the day, I want to let you in.
  But I know me, I know me, I’m scared I’ll just wake up and want you gone again.

  ‘Cause I’m not proud, I’m not proud, I’m not proud of me.
  So how could you, how could you, how could you ever be?
  Well I’m not proud, I’m not proud, I’m not proud of me.
  So how could you, how could you, how could you ever be?”

   

  p.s. This post comes from several conversations I’ve had with a few close friends. In particular one with my buddy Justin over some whiskey after a holy hour.

   

  Basically from our ranting from being tired of the “man up” accusations and a response to our own pursuits of women that felt ambiguous in response. The frustrations of women challenging men to be blunt, but our confusion of our courage being met with a lack of courage to respond definitively – and being accused of pressuring or placing women in a space of non-freedom.

   

  Straight un-poetic words: Dear women, we need you to be blunt. If you don’t know what you want, please tell us you don’t know what you want. If you don’t want to be with a man who is genuinely pursuing you, please tell him to bug off. Hope and love make a man do crazy things, so unless you tell him to stop . . . he will continue to be crazy. However I genuinely believe to a degree that crazy is only defined by its non-acceptance. From the wise words of the bud-light commercials. “It’s only weird if it doesn’t work.”

  In the simplest of terms, should someone offer you a gift, the only respectable (looking intently) response is to accept or decline. To continually avoid either of those responses disrepects (looks away, ignores) from the purpose of the gift.

  Even before writing this article I reached out to several women I really respect, and only one was open to having the conversation with me. She shared that the man in her life offering himself was very intimidating, and he did it over and over again for several years. It wasn’t until she finally surrendered to his gift of love that she has experienced more joy than she did the whole time they awkwardly danced around one another.

  “And holiness is measured according to the ‘great mystery’ in which the Bride responds with the gift of love to the gift of the Bridegroom.” Mulieris Dignitatum, 27.

  The title of our beloved St. Pope’s writing is not “Love and Ambiguity” but precisely Love and Responsibility.

   

  Thank you for taking the time to read this vulnerable challenge.

   

  Peace.

  Colby
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• Born to Build a Home. Calloused Hands and Stubborn Pride.

  Posted at 4:01 am by colbytallen, on April 20, 2016

  

  Alright. This one may be a little sporadic and LONG, but it’s very personal . . . so stick with me. Yes it’s about romance and pain, the general threads of human motivation, but mostly what motivates me through life.

  Normally I would put the video at the end, but hopefully the song will put you in a better place of receptivity to what I desire to share. This is from Mike Mangione, the song is titled “Born to Build a Home” so take a few minutes to listen and take in what he sings about.

  Why this song? Pride and humility. Strength and weakness. Giving and receiving. Work and rest. All of these paradoxes can be seen through an idea that was/is a tradition. To be frank (while still being myself) the idea that a man should have his act together in order to be seen as a man. That he should have a plan and place so that he can invite his bride to join him, cling to him.

  For those who know me, know that I’m not a huge fan of pork. If it’s in the main dish I’ll eat it, but if there is another option usually that is what I prefer. When people ask me why, normally I respond “because I’m half Jewish.” Confusion sets in because of course I’m kidding, but the underlying is that there are many scriptural traditions that I think are wonderfully romantic – and they’ve given me inspiration on some key ways to be a solid man. Some ways, very counter-cultural.

  One of those Jewish traditions happens to be that before the wedding ceremony was completed the bridegroom would go and build a home for his beginning family. He would walk away from his lady with the departing words of “I’m going to build a house for you, and not coming back until it’s done.”   I’m not a woman, so I don’t know. But ladies, if a guy walked up to you and said “I want to build a house for you and our future kids with my own two hands” . . . how would that make you feel?

   

  From Dr. Brant Pitre in Jesus the Bridegroom, The Greatest Love Story Ever Told he writes :

  “In ancient Jewish tradition, one of the duties of the bridegroom was to prepare a home for his bride, so that when the wedding was finally consummated he could take her from her own family and bring her to live with him and be a part of his family in his father’s house. As modern Jewish scholar Schmuel Safrai says: “The groom would go out to receive the bride and bring her into his house; in fact the wedding ceremony was essentially the groom’s introduction of the bride into his house.” Page 117

   

  He then goes on to reference a few more traditional Jewish writings and scripture to support this masculine mission. Eventually it culminates with Jesus when he says to the Apostles He’ll go to prepare a place for them in His Father’s house, and then bring them to Himself. John 14:2-3. If you don’t have this book, go buy it right now and feel free to browse (and purchase) some of the other great materials:

  http://store.catholicproductions.com

   

  Why is this tradition such a big deal? Because it’s practically never practiced today. DISCLAIMER: I’m not saying the following is bad, just an observation. However it seems that either because of cohabitation and change in economic conditions for housing and young people – but people are getting married much older and many times do not decide to buy a house until they are married and choose where they want to live.

  This is why I wanted to be different, and where my pride partially took the helm. Part of this came from a conversation about finances with a young woman I was dating, but practically ever since I was 16 years old my parents formed me to pay for my own expenses. True story, I was essentially working full time before 18 and paying my own car insurance, gas, etc.

   

  Our conversation ended up being us discussing how much money we had in the bank; being her parents paid for everything, she had exponentially more than me. After that I started scrutinizing where my money went, and discovered the bulk of it went towards monthly rent. At twenty-two years old I decided that I would never rent again and starting making a plan to purchase my first home. If I was going to pay so much for something, I wanted to keep some of the value – but also begin to form a stable foundation for my future family.

   

  That conversation ended up leading to others and eventually the relationship was ended, which in turn inspired me to make another decision. At the time it was very difficult for me to invest in more than one big task (finishing college, local full time mission work, and dating). So the second vow was made: I wouldn’t consider dating again until I had my ducks in a row. Was it extreme? Yes, but for me needed to be made. If I wasn’t in a place to respectfully discern marriage – why play the game?

   

  When the decision was made to move to Lafayette and go back to school, the house shopping began. I developed my financial plan and pitched it to the “Bank of Parents” a.k.a. Mom and Dad as investors. They accepted and we set up a plan that would be beneficial for them and me. Because I was only 23 (working less than 35 hours per week) no bank would let me sign for a mortgage. My parents purchased the house and we set up legal documentation that transferred financial responsibility to me with sole rights to the deed once the loan was paid.

  At twenty-three years old I was paying a mortgage note.

  Fast forward through a bunch of other details, it worked very well. I’ve since sold the first one and bought my second home (this time without the Bank of Parents as investors, WOO!).

  This home is wonderful. Small, old, giant oak tree, horses in the back yard, great sunrise view, wonderful neighbors, and of course a picket fence.

  My plan was working. Financially, dating fast (yes really) career wise, everything has fallen into place.

  Once every other part of the plan seemed to be on course, I started praying and discerning again to start dating. Made sense? It was part of the plan? My romantic side started to swell and reminded me of Ally and Jonah in The Notebook. His dream was to buy the old house, fix it up, and they would live together there. Just like (sortof) the Jewish tradition of the Bridegroom building a home for his Bride. I started to feel like Noah (except the house I bought was in great shape and doesn’t need drastic remodeling . . .). ANYWHO.

  I had the house! Now all I had to do was find the woman, woo her with some smooth/corny lines, and invite her to join me in the home I prepared. Simple enough?
  I thought the mere fact that I owned a house would be enough to make a woman melt and want to join together for a life of love in Lafayette. The happiest city in the country.

  

  WRONG. Then I began to notice a trend, this is where my pride started to hurt.

   

  DISCLAIMER: I’m not saying the following observations are wrong, just something that caught my attention because it’s the exact opposite of what I have been working to build.

  • My cousin has moved to Minnesota where his wife is from.
  • My roommate moved from New York to Louisiana to be close to the woman he was pursuing.
  • My cousin’s husband moved from North Dakota to be close to her.
  • Another friend’s fiancé is moving from Florida to join her in New Orleans.

   

  . . . the guy moved to be close to the girl.

   

  Now yes. I understand that we in the United States are not ancient Jews and there are huge cultural and social differences. Blah blah blah. What I’m asking is what happened to make it normal for a man to no longer strive to build his own? Back in the day, when we used to have agrarian communities, you couldn’t even have a family unless you could run a farm or build your own home.

  Again quoting Jesus The Bridegroom:

  “The Torah has thus taught a rule of conduct: that a man should build a house, plant a vineyard, and then marry a wife. Similarly declared Solomon in his wisdom, “Prepare your work without, and make it ready for you in the field; and afterwards build your house” Proverbs 24:27 “Prepare your work without” – that is, a dwelling-place; “and make it ready for you in the field” – that is, a vineyard; “and afterwards build your house” – that is, a wife. (Babylonian Talmud, Sotah 44a)     In contrast to modern-day weddings, in which a couple will often get married and then pool their resources in order to buy a home or apartment, in the first-century Judaism, it was the duty of the bridegroom to go and prepare a place for his bride to dwell before he took her to himself.”   Page 117

   

  Echoing the reflection in Mike’s song. Men, you are born to build a home. http://mikemangione.com/track/739545/born-to-build-a-home?feature_id=159834

   

  Does that mean if you don’t put up the framework yourself that you are less of a man? No. but what it does mean is we as men, husbands, future husbands, fathers, and future fathers need to quit being passive and start being men of action.

   

  Your namesake and very existence proves there were men before you who labored laying the next step on the stairway in the legacy of your family, and by your vocation as a man you are to do the same.

   

  Regardless of what modern sociology touts, and what seems to be off-putting, there is a right order to the family unit – and the man is destined to be priest, prophet, and king of his home.

   

  So here’s where the pride and prejudice shows up. I’ve left my father and mother, labored, set a cornerstone, however none of my invitations to join me on this journey have been accepted (hence I’m still single).

  Have I been a perfect man? Nope. Have I been lazy in my efforts to pursue a woman? Yes. My confession to you is I thought if I did all the other hard work first, that everything else should be easy. And boy have I been wrong.

  Don’t get me wrong, I have been on dates, I have pursued (half-hearted to some extent) women recently. However one thing I’ve been firm, that has been a hindrance to part of my effort is the pride I hold in what I’ve worked to build.

  My crashing nights of working long hours, going back to school non-traditionally, being at break even for years because I’m sacrificing for the future – to me would all feel in vain if I had to walk away from it because the women I’ve met and been interested in have little to no interest in moving.

  The frustration of efforts comes from an observed paradox within modern romance. Women desire a man who is decisive, has direction, has an active role in being a leader and invite her to join him in great adventures. However men today are the ones moving across the country so she can be close to her family? a.k.a. he has permission to join her in her current life to be absorbed as a passive part of her family?

   

  This seems like a lament, and it is. However the conflict (and beautiful reality) within my heart is also what motivates a man to act. Woman.

  • What motivated me to get my G.E.D. after quitting high school to start community college? A woman.
  • What motivated me to leave New Roads and move to Thibodaux? A Woman.
  • What motivated me to move for Lafayette, go back to school and pursue a real career? A woman.
  • What motivated me to build/buy a home? A woman.
  • What motivates me to fast and pray continually? A woman.
  • What motivates me to do things I would not normally do? A woman.

   

  What is the only evidence of that love? Action. Making a gift of yourself for their good. So I understand why my friends are moving across the country to be with the one they love, but it’s damn hard for me to accept that I would be called to do the same. Unwilling? Not necessarily. Pride? Absolutely.

   

  I’ve made so many changes for women in my life that concluded in vain result, so in effort of protection, it’s partly fear that fuels my pride and my resistance to huge change again. Do I practice what I preach? Yes and no. Have I fallen short in proving my love through action. Yes.

  Do I want to be like Christ, to have prepared a place for you? Absolutely. Do I guarantee that if you accept my gifts of sacrifice your life will be awesome? Absolutely. It doesn’t mean you will never see your family again, if anything I want to be a part of your family.

  But I was born to build our home. What I am asking is that you trust me in what I’ve worked so hard to give you. You motivate me. You move me. You inspire me to act. What I am asking is that we can make our own family with the name given to me by my father. That name is now mine, will one day be yours, and one day our children’s.

  Enough sappy stuff. Ladies let your men be men. Men, when the opportunity arouses your call to be a man – be that man. Build that home.
  Resources and recent inspiration:

  Dr. Brant Pitre. Jesus the Bridegroom, The Greatest Love Story Ever Told.

  Mike Mangione, musical artist.

  Maccabee Society men’s group. Do Women Desire the Patriarch? Maccabee Society

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